Being Twenty-Something

Maybe we all are going through this ‘Being Twenty-Something’. They call it the ‘Quarter-life Crisis’. It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like to have. You start feeling INSECURE and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are even right now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you think you are so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with over the course of time, are some of the most important ones you could have ever met. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing the same thing too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you are. Or, perhaps, only you are confused still.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or perhaps you are looking for a job that suits your interest perfectly, but realizing that you would have to start right from the bottom level, scares you off.

Your opinions have got stronger. You see what others are doing, how they are behaving and find that you are JUDGING more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and what they are, you start to define them and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. You find that you have become opinionated.

One minute, you are insecure and the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and CONFUSED. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try to cling on to your dear life, which is happening right now with you and let it carry you through. You are scared to take decisions. You are scared to change things for you. You lose the courage to do anything, and start accepting that what’s happening with your life at present is the only thing which is real. Soon you realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or perhaps you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a CONTENDER!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. We should take courage, take the steps, put ourselves in the driver’s seat and be in control of the life, rather than life control you. We should make efforts and take pains, to reach out for the stars, before the stars fall flat on the ground…